Lauren Card Live

For most of us, it’s natural to acknowledge those that we love and appreciate. We do so with words of kindness, but not necessarily words that explain how we really feel. An example is “I love you!” This is a powerful statement to be sure…but why do we love someone? Why do we value them in our lives? Stopping short of explaining the “I love you” is a missed opportunity.

With this in mind, let’s take a whack at telling the rest of the story:

• I love you because you took out the trash –  Translation: I was needing cooperation and consideration and you gave it to me.
• I love you because you listened to me – Translation: I feel heard and understood
• I love you because you were there for me –  Translation: I felt at risk and now feel more secure with your support
• I love you because you lost weight – Translation: You taking care of yourself is important to me

Can you see the value of being complete in your communications? Would you enjoy your next “I love you” a little more if you were to share with your loved one a complete thought like the ones above? It takes a little more time and a little more introspection, but the outcome can be amazing. Here’s how they might respond in a more complete way:

• In the future, I’ll take it out every day! Translation: I’m really aware of your needs and I want to contribute.
• I like listening to you. Translation: – You’re interesting and I learn a lot from what you have to say.
• I’m was happy to stand up for you     Translation: – I appreciate, love and support you.
• I’ve lost 30 pounds and I feel great. – Translation: I feel supported and acknowledged.

The goal is to give more information…get curious. Ask them what’s up? The extra time and energy that you devote to being complete in your communications will return great dividends to both you and your loved ones.

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